I experienced two really different and difficult moments that completely changed the way that I saw things…and changed the trajectory of my life. My path would require me to listen and cry and scream and speak and write and draw and sit and fight - fight for who I was beneath the layers of expectations and fear.
Read MoreJames Baldwin says to be a “to be a negro in this country and to be relatively conscious is to be in a rage almost all the time.” I submit that to be a Black woman and leader in America, and to be relatively good at it, is to always maintain an unsteady balance between identity and perception against actual talent, skills, and abilities.
Read MoreI have applied to over 100 jobs, and despite my experience, my work ethic, and my PhD, I remain stuck. My job search process is tedious and complicated because of my intersectionality: I am a black immigrant woman. These are the five things that I have realized after two years and countless interviews.
Read MoreThe truth though is that I was no SuperWoman. This was the ONLY way I knew how to live. I didn't know how to slow down. I didn't know how to make space for the things that mattered to me and I suffered from it. In the end, I just knew that something had to change and I had to make choices. I started looking at all aspects of my life and determining what was truly important to me.
Read MoreAnyone moving through a deep transformation needs a vacation at the Inn-between. The question is whether they are willing to take it: it goes against everything we are ever taught. It can be seen as selfish, a cop out, a failure… and yet, it is NECESSARY. I repeat: taking time out for yourself is necessary.
Read MoreWe often hear that what we want is on the other side of fear. So how can we get past the fear to access what we want? Curate your tribe. Change the noise. Change your life.
Read MoreI was not prepared to experience this kind of pain. For me, rising in grief has become a regular behavior, one I constantly learn from.
When I feel the doom set in, I rise in the acceptance of the things I cannot control. On good days, I rise in the memory of what I cannot have. Some days I rise to love myself enough to feel the pain of this loss. I rise in grief. I rise in love. I rise in discomfort. I rise in gratitude. Over and over again, I rise.
Trigger Warning. This post discusses pregnancy loss.
Read MoreAfter a period of feeling lost and disorientated, of dismantling all the layers that made up our old identity, we’ve taken the time to go within and explore who we want to be in our next chapter. Finally, we feel the energy rising to make moves and become that person. Except…we don’t know how do to that. Based on research with high performers in transition, learn the three step process that will help you navigate your next steps after a major change: explore, define, embody.
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