I have applied to over 100 jobs, and despite my experience, my work ethic, and my PhD, I remain stuck. My job search process is tedious and complicated because of my intersectionality: I am a black immigrant woman. These are the five things that I have realized after two years and countless interviews.
Read MoreThe truth though is that I was no SuperWoman. This was the ONLY way I knew how to live. I didn't know how to slow down. I didn't know how to make space for the things that mattered to me and I suffered from it. In the end, I just knew that something had to change and I had to make choices. I started looking at all aspects of my life and determining what was truly important to me.
Read MoreWe often hear that what we want is on the other side of fear. So how can we get past the fear to access what we want? Curate your tribe. Change the noise. Change your life.
Read MoreI was not prepared to experience this kind of pain. For me, rising in grief has become a regular behavior, one I constantly learn from.
When I feel the doom set in, I rise in the acceptance of the things I cannot control. On good days, I rise in the memory of what I cannot have. Some days I rise to love myself enough to feel the pain of this loss. I rise in grief. I rise in love. I rise in discomfort. I rise in gratitude. Over and over again, I rise.
Trigger Warning. This post discusses pregnancy loss.
Read MoreAfter a period of feeling lost and disorientated, of dismantling all the layers that made up our old identity, we’ve taken the time to go within and explore who we want to be in our next chapter. Finally, we feel the energy rising to make moves and become that person. Except…we don’t know how do to that. Based on research with high performers in transition, learn the three step process that will help you navigate your next steps after a major change: explore, define, embody.
Read MoreAn internal revolution has happened, yet the world around you has not changed one bit and you need to re-emerge and find your new place in it. You now need to be seen again and in order to do that, you need to be willing to show yourselves.
How do you do that when you’re not sure what you’re showing because you don’t know who you’ve become yet?
Read MoreGrowing up as a tomboy is difficult. Coming out and coming to terms with my sexuality in my teens was more difficult. Fighting the urge to conform to societal standards and finding confidence to be myself was beyond difficult. In the battle to choose between male and female, I was losing myself. It took time, a number of unfortunate situations, and a hair cut to help me figure out exactly who I was meant to be in this world.
Read MoreI hid behind perfectionism in order to not be seen. My particular brand of perfectionism was made up of self-righteous overachievement combined with a healthy dose of internal shame and contempt. Flawless and selfless on the outside, and indignant and sad on the inside. I found a way out through the practice of vulnerability…and then I fell off the vulnerability wagon.
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